We absolutely loved this article “20 things to do at 30 to make you feel great at 50” from http://www.brightside.me, although we are, let’s say a little, passed our thirties, the advice still resonates. There is no reason why you can’t make these changes at any point in your life, they will always have a benefit to your mind body and soul.
It is so easy to put things off, or find an excuse not to do something, but if you are anything like me you will know the incredible satisfaction you get when you get on with a job, project or dream – don’t put things off today just because you could do them tomorrow…. tomorrow never comes!
I’ve made some personal notes next to a few of the points on the list, when you read them why don’t you mentally or literally make a note as to how they could improve your life for the better and then, as with our Lifestyle Design blog, put together an action plan of how you can make them happen. Who doesn’t want to live a happier, healthier life?
The site Quora has carried out some research, in which it asked people who are 50-years-old or more what rules they would advise thirtysomethings to follow for the sake of a happy future. Their answers turned out to be very simple, but at the same time very wise. Here are twenty pieces of advice on how to live better from people with a huge amount of experience.
- Don’t smoke. If you’ve started stop, immediately “If you could see me now, I’m down on my poor, crackling knees begging you to at least consider stopping smoking,” writes one person. It’s expensive, smells gross, and is 100% guaranteed to cause health problems. It’s time to give up.
- Use sun cream. Do you want wrinkles and thin skin from sun damage and bruises from just lightly touching the side of a box and having your skin peel off? Go ahead, enjoy lying in the sun without sunblock.
I’ve got very fair skin which burns easily so am pretty good at slapping on the sun cream but even if you have dark skin you need to protect it. I became even more obsessed with topping up the coverage after friends I knew had skin cancer – don’t be one of those.
- Start saving money. Even if it’s just a tiny bit. Yes, this is a boring suggestion, but it’s true. In your 30s, the average person has a lot of disposable income, some of which can almost always easily be set aside for use later in life. Plus, building the habit of saving early means you’ll continue it further down the line.
- Maintain (or repair) relationships with parents and siblings. Even if you have very complicated relationships with them, and sometimes even hate each other, you still need to get on with them. Family ties are extremely important. Sooner or later you’ll understand that your family is the most valuable thing you’ll ever have.
I can speak from the heart on this subject, I have lost both of my parents and I thankful every day that I had a wonderful relationship with them both. You never know what is waiting around the corner, so please don’t leave it too late, life is too short.
- Collect memories instead of things. You are the sum of your experiences. Don’t wake up when you’re 50 and realize that you’ve wasted life gathering possessions. Memories won’t depreciate and can’t be burned in a fire.
- Give something back. Give to others so you feel the goodness that service brings. However you give, do it with your full heart, soul, and effort. Expect nothing in return.
Giving your time freely (or money, gifts, food) to help others gives you such an immense feeling of well-being and you can bet your bottom dollar the people you are helping will feel exactly the same.
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- Take up sport. Get into an active lifestyle right now, then you’ll be a lot healthier by 50. Don’t gain weight and take regular exercise. Look after yourself.
- Learn to be content with what you have. Happiness is what matters far more than worldly success. If you are content with what you have then you may be a bit less likely to end up a millionaire, but you will have a happier life. And if you do become a wealthy person — there is no reason why not, you’ll be a more happy, fulfilled and productive wealthy person.
- Don’t delay pursuing your life goals. Want to buy a house? Have kids? Write a book? Get a second degree or advanced degree? Change your career? Learn to play a new musical instrument? Learn to cook gourmet meals? Try scuba diving? Run for public office? Start a business and be self-employed? Then start today. It’s easy to put things off. “I’ll get to that someday.” But it’s really true that time starts accelerating as you enter your 30’s, and it keeps accelerating. The time that you’ll get around to those dreams should be now.
I couldn’t agree more, Lucy and I have both worked like demons since we left school and most of the time really loved it, but more recently we found our day jobs weren’t fulfilling our lives like they used to, so we took the plunge with Life Begins At and because it means so much to us, our passions have been reignited! It might be a little scary but once you make that all important first step you will be elated you did, not matter what it is you want to do.
- Get some sleep. A dark room or sleep shades will block out light. No bright screens before bedtime. Go to sleep at the same time and wake up at the same time.
I wear eye shades and ear plugs every night (Mr Perfect loves it) and I can’t tell you how much it has improved my sleep! Of course there are days where you just can’t sleep but I would definitely recommend doing all you can to get a good nights sleep!
- Take care of your teeth. Go to the freaking dentist already. Get your little cavities fixed as they come up. Unlike many body health issues, dental problems only get worse — and things like crowns and implants are uncomfortable, time-consuming and expensive. If you have good savings (see start saving) and income, the bills won’t be the painful thing — but there’s no getting around the pain and the time!
- Be curious. Get out of the house and have an adventure right now. Make it as big as you can possibly manage, take lots of pictures, throw caution to the wind, take on the risk. If possible, include someone you’re close to — make a BIG memory. It needs to be measured in days, not hours or minutes. You’ll still be smiling about it when you’re old.
- Stop eating crap. You can make a lot of money in your 20s, 30s, 40s, 50s,…90s to buy the whole world when you are at age 50 or beyond. But, you cannot buy your health. Give up on fast food right now at age 30.
Or if like us you are a little past that still do it, we’re not saying you can’t have treats but make sure you fuel your body with what’s good for it, you will see and feel the benefits!
- Read at least 10 books a year. Your brain never stops growing, so exercise it with media that matters.
- Learn to meditate. The list of benefits is endless, it only costs you a small amount of time a day, the change in your life and the people you love will be amazing. And compared to ten years ago, there are long lists of scientific studies to back it up.
I can 100% vouch for this one! I am pretty new to meditating but my god it’s good! The busier you are the more you need it, I urge you to give it a go you really won’t be disappointed. More to come on meditation on our blog very soon.
- Travel. As much as possible, whenever you can. Traveling will change you like little else can. It will put you in places that will force you to care for issues that are bigger than you. It’s about experiencing true risk and adventure so you don’t have to live in fear for the rest of your life. And…inspiring others to step out of that fear, too.
- Stop comparing yourself with anyone else. When you reach 50, you’ll be completely indifferent what impression you make on those around you. Find your own path. Be strong.
Yes, Yes, Yes and Yes – I’m sure a lot of you already know this but teach it to your kids too!
- Keep a diary. You will definitely forget more of your precious memories than you’ll remember. Your written records will entertain and endear in your future. Your computer should make this archiving all the easier to implement and retain/recall. Put files on memory sticks with photos. Your kids (or surviving spouse) may someday love you for it.
- Take care of your friends. Choose people who make you feel like you already are your best self, who challenge you by their example, and who you genuinely enjoy. Nurture them. Laugh with them. Be silly, too. Contribute to their survival and enjoyment of life. Take the time every week to be in touch.
Friends are the family you choose, mine inspire me and make me a better version of myself every day – thank you.
- Buy your own house. This is of course, not so simple as it once was in the current climate. But do whatever you can to ensure you have your own place to go home to and relax at the end of each day. And it should be nearly paid for by the time you’re 50. I left this one a little late in life and can with all honesty say I wish I hadn’t. If I had got on the ladder sooner I would by now be living in my dream house in the country, writing our blog full time! That said, as this is one of my dreams, I do have a plan in place to make it happen and it’s what drives me every day…. ooops just went off in to day dream land…. soon little house you will be mine and Mr Perfects!